We all have emotions, but the truth and the problem is; that more than us having emotions, the emotions are having us.
The emotions could be in 2 states: controlled or wild. And in most cases it is the last one. The emotions perceive the human system as their kingdom. So from the body, its instinct up to its intellect, including all its energy centres, even the space of the soul and the consciousness – without sincere training, it is all the terrain of the emotions.
And in that sense, there is a lot in common between the emotions and dogs, just that dogs are all emotions, we are partly so.
But there is a way to train a wild dog so he will listen. Even the wildest dogs stick to the rules of their pack. The emotions also stay true to the rules of their home. In other words: the pinpoint is to tame it regarding to its own laws. It is the only way it will listen.
“What are the rules of a dogs pack?” you might think.
To answer this question, it is interesting to know that dogs could either be social and loyal creatures, or devious bitches that you cannot trust.
And originally, they are the second, but after training they can become the first: social and loyal creatures. So, without training, the emotions’ behavior will be according their lower animal nature.
What makes the difference?
It all depends on the stand someone takes towards it: because the behavior of the dog as well as the emotional state of a person depends on the position in the pack! Either you are ruled by the leader, or you are the one that makes the law.
But punishing a dog as well as an emotion gives no solution. It will make it worse. It leads to a state of confusion and scattered feelings. In case of a human: (self-)judgment is not punishing the emotion, but the person behind it.
Punishment is like shouting in Chinese to a French kid. Obviously, that it is not helpful, besides: an emotion doesn’t have a memory!
So if punishment is not the language of the emotion, how to “speak” to the emotion? Work directly and learn to communicate the right signals. Be the leader of your own pack.
The leader of the pack of dogs can be male or female. It is an undemocratic business to be part of a dogs pack. The pack knows a very particular order, where the alpha dog, the strongest, most dominant dog is ruling. There is no space for discussion, although there is the holy moment of crying together.
In this static social order, every dog cooperates for the group to be one. The other dogs decide for the individual what his task will be and what the quality of his food will be. The dog knows his place in rank and he follows up the orders from the superior.
These are the rules.
Raising a young dog is a repetitive story, consequent and 24 hours a day. To show the little puppy that you are the leader is a matter of body language and right intonation! Be twice as much positive than negative. Under no circumstance there is negotiation.
Don’t you remember a dog, maybe your dog or the one of a friend, that pretends to be deaf and walks away cool? That is it! That is the act of a superior dog.
One simply shouldn’t look at a dog who thinks he is the leader. His behavior is supposed to be ignored physically and verbally for as long as it might take. It is crucial to neglect him, because that, he understands: it is his language. After all it is the real leader who enters the room first and it is the leader who decides. And there is no space for dominant or aggressive dogs, who think that they are the boss.
Also we, in person, should take the lead over our emotions . We should not negotiate with our emotions,or lower ourselves to their level. There should be a dominant stand towards them. The emotions will have to learn to let go (of objects), to come, sit and wait. We have to train them to be good and in control, to walk decently on the oar, to stay calmly at home, to be polite to others and to look after one’s physical state.
There is a way to tame the emotions, know their rules, live and use them in your benefit.
Be the leader of the inner emotional pack.
Sara, edited by Gabriel Raam
An old Cherokee Indian is teaching his grandson about life. “Inside me, there is a fight going on”, he tells the boy. “It is a terrible fight between two wolves.”
“One wolf is bad – he embodies anger, rage,jealousy, sadness, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt feeling, resentment, low self-esteem, lies, false pride, superiority and ego. The other wolf is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, calm, humble, friendly, good willing, empathic,giving, truthful and compassionate.”
In you, the same fight rages – the same can be applied to all people. The grandson thinks for a moment and then he asks his Grandfather:
“Which wolf will win the fight?”
The old Cherokee smiles and answers simply: “The one you will feed.”