We are taught not to express objection, not to be the party destroyer.
You need to swallow and to hide your objection. Society doesn´t stand people who act as party destroyer. Never say that something is wrong.
What happens if you say something is wrong? What will be the response of the people in the group?
They will attack you: “Until you spoke the atmosphere was fine.”
Don´t be the party destroyer.
The person that feels that the atmosphere is wrong will take upon himself blame of why the conversation doesn´t go in a healthy way.
It´s a great fear that a whole group attacks us. We swallow big frogs just not to be slaughtered by the majority.
It´s difficult to know one thing in the inside and to act in a different way on the outside. But that´s the only way to survive. Become an actor. Say what everyone is saying. Keep the truth inside like a diamond and keep it for the times when you are with people that dedicate their lives searching for truth.
The more you develop your consciousness the more you see. More things will come and disturb you.
You should be dualistic in your attitude towards society. You need to live in one world inside and to be true to yourself and act in another world outside. You need to be not-honest. You can´t have the high truth and be honest because most people don´t live by truth, they live by interest.
Jesus made himself enemy of everyone.
Truth is something too dear and too precious than to throw it to swines and pigs. The fact that you have the high truth doesn´t give you the permission to spoil the life of people that didn´t ask for truth.
In a group with bad atmosphere everyone can sit there and talk and feel good. Because everyone is believing the lies of everyone.
If people didn´t ask for truth never give it to them. But what people do when they find the high truth they go and shout it from every hill and think that other people will come and hug them and be grateful.
If there is one thing that people will not forgive you for it´s telling them the truth.
Truth usually crushes the illusions of people. People don´t live by truth but by what makes them feel comfortable.
When you know the truth which other people don´t know you loose in each end. People spend their life repressing truth which is not comfortable for them. And this is the way they survive. Because truth is so explosive you should handle it with care.
To be dualistic, to live in one world inside and to act in a different world outside is especially difficult for women. Women are educated to be good and nice girls and to be sweet to everyone and help men, who are the important factor in this society. Society will never forgive a woman to speak out the truth.
I am not asking you to be authentic but I am asking you to be phony.
People would like to believe that they live in a world in which you can have the truth and come up with it and people will come and clap to you: “Oh thank you so much for telling us the truth, we missed it so much.”
Society is in a very deteriorated state as far as truth is concerned. People are behaving the way it is expected from them. Don´t have any illusions about this society. This society betrays truth. It wants comfortable life and it wants to enjoy the technology of life and it organizes life in such a way that the individual person has no importance unless it is part of the majority. The worst thing for a person is not to have a job and not to study because this society doesn’t have any recognition to an individual unless it is part of the system. This society is not supporting real development. They might say ‘Yes’ to spirituality but when it comes to truth, they don´t want it.
If you were in a truth-seeking society you wouldn’t need to be phony.
It is okay to be phony. You need to be phony to survive. To be truthful in a society which is against truth means that you won´t survive. You will get attacked from people.
Because you are more sensitive than other people you can´t put the face of being satisfied like anyone else. The group will show you that something is fucked with you because you don´t behave like everyone else. Then you go home with the feeling that something is wrong up with you and you will have guilt feelings without knowing where these guilt feelings come from. More than seventy percent of your life you go around and feel that something is fucked up with you, feeling guilty.
This is not because of you. It is because you couldn´t hide your lack of satisfaction about what´s going on in society and they pick up your body language and they become antagonistic against you.
No one wants to be in opposition to society. But if you read history and about great people they always have been in antagonism with society. Society at large always wanted to have good life and the hell with truth. Truth is kicked out because it doesn´t allow people to sleep peacefully. In this society people who have more power are putting down people with less power. But you wouldn´t say society stinks and I am right. How could it be that so many people are mistaken? It´s probably me who is mistaken.
If you go through your life blaming yourself for things that are not your fault you will come to the age of fifty a broken human being. You should always feel that you are ok. What is not ok is this terrible society. It is going against weak people and against sensitive people and it doesn´t have any appreciation for what is high and fine. We are brainwashed that now it´s much better than in the middle ages and in the middle ages they were in the dark time, now we are developed we´ve got science, we see the truth. It´s all bullshit.
If you don´t say it´s not my fault but the fault of everyone else you are going to be a garbage bin with guilt feelings for things that have nothing to do with you.
You are okay, the only problem is that you are sensitive for things which are not okay but you are taking the blame upon yourself. You can´t be honest in this world. Honest you can be with people that accept you as you are, that you have a contract with.
You need to be clever. If you would be stupid you wouldn’t survive. If you come home and take all the shit which is outside you are not going to survive, you are going to destroy yourself. The more sensitive people are the ones that destroy themselves. Sensitive people become the garbage bin of society. You feel bad all the time for doing nothing wrong, just being sensitive.
Women are educated to be good girls and to please everyone especially if he is powerful.
Eighty percent of what´s going on in many groups is people trying to be nice to each other no matter what they really feel. The most important thing is that everyone will say: “Oh, wasn’t that nice, eh? We had conversation, we ate something, there was no argument, we were talking about things everyone agreed.” And they go home happy.
You sit there feeling absolutely horrible because you feel the atmosphere, the antagonism. For sensitive people it is absolutely horrible to sit in groups in which the most important thing is to make other people feel nice.
Stop putting the blame upon yourself.
You don´t want to put a stigma upon everyone else and say: “I am right and everyone is wrong.” You don´t want to be arrogant. “Who am I to say I am right to say I am right and everyone else is wrong. I am unfriendly towards all these people and I don´t want to be against society.”
Most people don´t give a damn about truth, they want to be comfortable and be happy. What will people choose if you would let them choose between living a happy life without truth or an unhappy life with truth?
You can´t be okay with everyone. If you choose a particular way you can´t be okay with everyone. You can´t be like everyone else. You tried all your life to be like everyone else and you can´t. You are not succeeding being integrated in society because you have too much high qualities.
You´ve being hard on yourself because you are more sensitive than the average human being.
It´s important that you say: “I am okay.”
Do not go against yourself. This is the greatest crime sensitive people do. You go around through the week depressed most of the time and you are cutting your own throat.
You should start to give yourself backup, to hug yourself.
The last thing that one should do, is come to a personally involved (p.i.) person and tell him, and show him, that he is p.i.- he will never forgive you.
When he gets p.i. about their p.i. – This is already, a radioactive p.i.